Giving for the wrong reasons

I am a big fan of the holidays.

Big feasts, time with family and friends, time off from work, less rush hour traffic due to people taking time off work – what is there not to love about the holidays?  And let us not forget the presents.

Getting presents from people is always a fun time, but I find that I have more fun trying to pick out something for someone else instead of getting gifts from that person.

One of the things that I hate about the holiday season is gift giving. It’s not that I hate giving people gifts, but that I hate the reason that a lot of people give gifts.

I was talking to my mother on the phone yesterday and she was on her way out to the mall. She told me how one of her co-workers had given her a gift and that now she had to go to the mall to pick up something for said co-worker.

Giving someone a gift just because they gave you one is not the reason to give a gift. Unfortunately a lot of people see it as that.

My mother told me that it would look bad and “be in bad taste” to not show up with a gift for the co-worker after being given a gift by said co-worker. Personally, I think it is in bad taste that her only motivation to gift this person with anything at all was because of being given something.

Then my mother went on to tell me how she had gotten her mother (my granny) a gift card but was only going to give it to her if she showed up at the house on Christmas day. What is that?!? She had enough motivation and initiative to buy something but does not want to make any real effort to give it away? Clearly this is another of those “in bad taste” moments.

On a side note, do you ever look at your parents and wonder, “How did I come from that?” and “How can I be so different from them?”