One of the most interesting things I learned in a previous art class was the way that different colors affect your moods. The art class was a little art mixed in with a little splash of psychology.

One of the key things I remember my teacher pointing out was how most restaurants have reds or oranges for their color pattern as those colors should speed you up on getting out of there. And how blues and greens would be in doctor offices as those colors are supposed to relax you.

And I remember thinking – what about IHOP? The colors in there are blue – do they want me relaxed when I’m eating my pancakes?

Oh well, maybe they didn’t get the color memo!

Here is all you need to know on colors and how they affect your moods…

Black

Black is the color of authority and power. It is popular in fashion because it makes people appear thinner. It is also stylish and timeless. Black also implies submission. Priests wear black to signify submission to God. Some fashion experts say a woman wearing black implies submission to men. Black outfits can also be overpowering, or make the wearer seem aloof or evil. Villains, such as Dracula, often wear black.

White

Brides wear white to symbolize innocence and purity. White reflects light and is considered a summer color. White is popular in decorating and in fashion because it is light, neutral, and goes with everything. However, white shows dirt and is therefore more difficult to keep clean than other colors. Doctors and nurses wear white to imply sterility.

Red

The most emotionally intense color, red stimulates a faster heartbeat and breathing. It is also the color of love. Red clothing gets noticed and makes the wearer appear heavier. Since it is an extreme color, red clothing might not help people in negotiations or confrontations. Red cars are popular targets for thieves. In decorating, red is usually used as an accent. Decorators say that red furniture should be perfect since it will attract attention.

The most romantic color, pink, is more tranquilizing. Sports teams sometimes paint the locker rooms used by opposing teams bright pink so their opponents will lose energy.

Blue

The color of the sky and the ocean, blue is one of the most popular colors. It causes the opposite reaction as red. Peaceful, tranquil blue causes the body to produce calming chemicals, so it is often used in bedrooms. Blue can also be cold and depressing. Fashion consultants recommend wearing blue to job interviews because it symbolizes loyalty. People are more productive in blue rooms. Studies show weightlifters are able to handle heavier weights in blue gyms.

Green

Currently the most popular decorating color, green symbolizes nature. It is the easiest color on the eye and can improve vision. It is a calming, refreshing color. People waiting to appear on TV sit in “green rooms” to relax. Hospitals often use green because it relaxes patients. Brides in the Middle Ages wore green to symbolize fertility. Dark green is masculine, conservative, and implies wealth. However, seamstresses often refuse to use green thread on the eve of a fashion show for fear it will bring bad luck.

Yellow

Cheerful sunny yellow is an attention getter. While it is considered an optimistic color, people lose their tempers more often in yellow rooms, and babies will cry more. It is the most difficult color for the eye to take in, so it can be overpowering if overused. Yellow enhances concentration, hence its use for legal pads. It also speeds metabolism.

Purple

The color of royalty, purple connotes luxury, wealth, and sophistication. It is also feminine and romantic. However, because it is rare in nature, purple can appear artificial.

Brown

Solid, reliable brown is the color of earth and is abundant in nature. Light brown implies genuineness while dark brown is similar to wood or leather. Brown can also be sad and wistful. Men are more apt to say brown is one of their favorite colors.


While blue is one of the most popular colors it is one of the least appetizing. Blue food is rare in nature. Food researchers say that when humans searched for food, they learned to avoid toxic or spoiled objects, which were often blue, black, or purple. When food dyed blue is served to study subjects, they lose their appetite.

Green, brown, and red are the most popular food colors. Red is often used in restaurant decorating schemes because it is an appetite stimulant.

I have had a lot of jobs in my lifetime that I have absolutely hated. And I think that is a bad thing as we end up spending more time at work each day than we do with people that we love or that doing things that we actually enjoy.

So, the question is, what do you do about it? If you hate your job, what happens next?

My girlfriend’s mother seems to think that you “just need to find something that you love outside of work.” And that “no one likes their job.”

I do not necessarily agree with that.

I do however think that there are a lot of people in a situation like mine where a lot of debt dictates that you need to stay in a job that you do not like just to pay the bills. And I do not hate my current job, but I do not love it either.

If you are stuck in a job that you hate – whether it is for reasons like debt or just because there are no other jobs available or whatever – the first thing you need to do is to make a game plan.

Figure out why you took the job and why you are still there. Once you have that all figured out you need to look for ways out. Let’s say you took the job because you needed to make a certain amount to pay the bills and you are still there because of debt. Clearly to get out of the job you need to pay down the debt. So, the way out would be having less or no debt.

For me, I am in my current job for two reasons – debt and because I was unemployed and it was the first thing that came along. I am staying because it pays better than my last job which means it will speed up the debt pay off. The silver lining is that once that debt is paid down it will decrease the amount of money needed to live on each month. And that in turn means that for the first time in about 10 years I will be able to look for a job that I actually enjoy!

So, when you hate your job, here are some tips to help you get through it:

  • Focus on the end result that you hope to achieve instead of your current misery.
  • Look for some skills at your job that you can learn to help you to get out of that job.
  • Look for specifics on what you hate and try to change it- if it’s your boss, see if you can transfer to a new department for instance
  • Remember that it is just temporary and that you can change it

I am writing this from the position of recently having lost my job and now moving onto new things. When reality hit that I was no longer employed and that I wasn’t going to be receiving my latest paycheck, I decided to take a step back and make sure I reacted in a positive way.

Amongst all that was going on around me and the situation it was pretty difficult, but I am also a pretty simple person, so I like things as straightforward as I can make them. I like a simple method I can follow, because the simpler it is, the easier it is to fall back on. This is how I dealt with the upheaval.

The first thing I did was to accept that I couldn’t alter what had happened and so put that behind me. Why waste time on if’s and but’s and things you can’t change? The situation was done, it wasn’t going to change, no matter what I did. So…

  • Rule 1: You can’t change what has already happened, don’t waste your energy.

The second thing I did was decide to see what the positive side of being laid off was. Or what it “could” be. As they say, you attract what you focus on, so I started to look at the opportunities for change that it gave me, the new possibilities.

Once I started doing this I actually became pretty upbeat and life started moving in a positive direction again. Then the momentum effect began to take over, it’s important just to get the ball rolling.

  • Rule 2: Look for the opportunities the change has created.

I believe Winston Churchill once said that “some people see difficulty in all possibilities while some people see possibility in all difficulties”. I think this is something to bear in mind. When change happens, train yourself to focus on the possibilities.

Having seen the opportunities that being out of work had given me, somethings that I had been blind to previously, I quickly started to feel more positive and decided to pick my fight. Where was my energy and focus going to go?

For me, it wasn’t going to be to fight the change. It was going to be to fight for a better future. The result being that I have now found myself a better job and also have set about more time for myself to update me skills.

  • Rule 3: Pick your fight wisely, then put all you energy into it.

Of course, you can choose to fight the change (if you are sure it is a change for the worse and it’s of a benefit to be fought) or you can choose to fight for new openings and new opportunities.

This is my simple story. This is my simple method of dealing with change. I hope you can take some optimism from this and start to believe that all change isn’t bad. Find your own way of coping and turning it into a positive experience and make it a habit.

If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started.

Marcus Tullius Cicero

Self confidence can be one of the hardest things to find, so you can easily imagine how excited I was when I found a great way to easily give it a huge kick up the butt in as little as 3 ½ minutes of your time. Even better, it can be used in a variety of situations or places and can give you a timely boost exactly when you need it.

After you start to use this simple system, you will find the effects quite addictive as you become more and more confident in a variety of situations. You will go from strength to strength.

The Inspiration

The idea originally came about having read the 30 second elevator pitch on DLM. Suddenly I started thinking of the situations that this could be applied in and I uncovered a subtle and natural power within in it. I discovered that “if you make the speech answer a quality that you want to see in yourself, then you will in fact be able to create that quality”.

I am a teacher, so I to decided to try and craft a pitch to convince someone what a great teacher I was. It wasn’t that great the first time around, but within a few minutes it was 10x better and I had in fact convinced myself what a great teacher I was. I went to work and naturally had a mind-blowing day.

When you are making this short pitch to yourself the first thing to focus on is using action words to create movement and power (create, build, explode, slash, unleash, revolutionize, uncover, spread etc.).

The second thing is to consider the power of words and positive presuppositions in order to get the most out of your 30 seconds.

Using these 2 key factors, these are the 5 basic steps you need to take.

The System

  1. Make a 30 second speech in your head imagining you are convincing someone about whatever quality you want to have (30 seconds)
  2. Review what you said and think of the things you want to add but missed (1 minute)
  3. Make the speech again, this time out loud and including the new ideas (30 seconds)
  4. Pause and think how to add some more bang using power words and words of action (1 minute)
  5. Make the speech a last time out loud using the additional power (30 seconds)

That’s in. It’s what I did and in 3 and a half minutes I had given myself a huge and natural confidence boost that I could go back to time and time again. After this I felt like I was buzzing. I was truly pumped up about how great I was, I had discovered the self belief within myself about being a teacher.

Having done this I started to think of all the situations it could be used in and that is when I discovered how much power it truly had. Just consider these situations where this technique could easily be used:

 

  • Why should you be the girl to go and chat to that hot guy?
  • Why you should be given this job?
  • Why you are such a great blogger?
  • Why you are going to be the one out of many to actually carry out this exercise program?

Just imagine you have 30 seconds to convince someone of your ability in these situations and soon your mind will start creating the answers. You can use this simple method for any situation you want.

  • Take the result you want to achieve.
  • Create the situation where you have to convince someone of why you have this talent or your ability to achieve the result.
  • Go through the 5 steps above to hone it and then you will have this speech ready at your disposal to convince yourself.

Basically it acts like an extended and more powerful affirmation. Give it a go and be ready to be surprised by the changes you will go through.

Your Task

Spend 3 and half minutes to create a self-pitch on your biggest area of desire and enjoy your new self belief

“Never talk defeat. Use words like hope, belief, faith, victory”

Norman Vincent Peale

power words - add real strength to your mindWe’ve talked together before about the words you use in your mind. This is because the words you use in your daily life have a direct relation on what you achieve. This is all about using “power words”. Simplychange your words and you can change your life.

I like things that I can just plug n’ play. Here are 12 things to plug into your mind and play with!

    1. MOST IMPORTANT: When you speak to yourself get excited, speak with high energy and then double that energy and passion NOW!
    2. If you hear any negative voices like your Mum saying “you are so bad with money”, turn the negative voice into daffy duck or something and you will just laugh every time you hear it
    3. Make time to compliment yourself for anything and everything: “nice work cooking dinner today”, “I was awesome at that meeting”
    4. Instead of saying good>> use great, awesome, amazing, unbelievable, fantastic: “I look amazing”, “I feel unbelievable”
    5. Get your imagination involved>> use imagine, grasp, consider, realize and be aware: “imagine having so much money you never have to work again”, “Now, grasp how much talent you have”
    6. Use words of power>> say build, discover, explode, create, accomplish: “I build success after success”, “I can accomplish more and more everyday”
    7. Use linguistic binds>> the more you X, the more you Y: “the more I focus on success, the more I achieve”, “as I seek more opportunities, more naturally come to me”
    8. Use time words>> before, while, in addition, after, along with: “in addition to having great confidence, I am modest”, “while I’m having fun cleaning the house today I will sing!”
    9. Put everything in the present>> NOW! “I can do this work now”, “Now you understand how to motivate yourself”
    10. Use cause and effect>> X causes Y: “waking up causes me to make lots of money today”, “just thinking causes me to be creative”
    11. Make things easy for yourself>> say already, simply, easily, naturally: “I simply power through challenges”, “I naturally get more confident every day”
    12. Play with the pictures in your head>> go beyond, expand, uncover, make them bigger, make them brighter: “imagine success then go beyond that and make the new image bigger, then venture beyond even that and just experience what you feel”

The Task:

Spend 5 minutes every day in the morning using as many of these ideas and words as possible in your head. Soon they will become ingrained and your mind unstoppable.

“To continue learning is to embrace the process of trial and error at higher and higher levels”

Michael Gelb & Tony Buzan

It’s a fact. Over our lives we come across a huge amount of information and it’s impossible to take it all in. In the age of the internet its even more difficult. However, when it comes to learning it can literally pay to be able to recall it when we need it.

So why don’t we try to remember more? Basically, because we believe we can’t. First of all we can ~~(but thats another topic). Secondly we just need to know how to aid our mind.

The Basic Problem

Over time I have taken in so much about self improvement and business (as I’m sure you have), however, a vast majority eludes me now. It may have been irrelevent at the time but I feel some of it may be useful to me now. I just wish I could remember it… you know the feeling.

So, I have tested a new system for myself which ensures that you learn and understand better. It ensures you use it as wel. Finally it also means you have it available in the future to call upon. This basically sits well in my philosophy of finding stuff that it is simple AND works.

An Elegant Solution

The idea is basically to make a summary of anything you learn or read. You can decide how far to take it. Self-help books, fiction books, news stories, jokes. This will challenge your understanding and have the benefit of making sure it is in a language you can operate on and use.

The stage I’m at right now I just use it for stuff related to my immediate dreams. Its what I want to focus on, but I want to take it much further soon. I hope you can too, just imagine what you could achieve having everything you ever heard or read at your finger tips.

I put this summary on some flashcards. Just a few key points. Anything I perceive as having value or a possible value in the future. Thus I can build up a handy reference which is easily memorable. Of course you can do this on the computer, but I’m still very much a pen and paper man.

For example I have a card like this:

-REALIZE -
(front of card) ... then (on the back) ...

* realize the power of this word
* use it as much as possible in your mind and speech
* say it with stress and power
* use it to create energy

Now, I have a stack of flashcards which I can easily review and it brings the whole subject back. Its a constant reminder and refresher course.

Every day the power of this resource grows and becomes more valuable. The more you use it the more powerful it becomes. Can you imagine the value of the information you would build up in a year, or how about in 5? Its huge… and you can do it AND remember it.

If you wonder if this is really worthwhile, just ask yourself if you truly think there is 1 magic key to everything. If your answer is “no”, then you need something like this as you build up new habits and the knowledge to be your destiny.

If you answered “yes” then just write that one thing down and live it. If you feel like adding more at a later stage then its ok. I hope I will give you a few things, so make sure to check back in at this website ;)

The Task:

Get a pack of flashcards – use them to remember anything you learn that you value or could find a way to value in the future. You must write down 1 thing a day for a month and at the end of the month review them all. Then decide if its for you.

“If you ask lousy questions, you get lousy results”

Anthony Robbins

This is part 2 of a 3 part series about creating the mindset for achievement (please also check out “Why You Should be Your Best Friend” and “How to Remove Your Fears“). These ideas are at the foundation of really achieving goals and improving your life.

Introduction to the Right Questions

Today we are going to look at asking the right questions. I want to focus on the questions that you ask yourself. This is simply because the questions you ask yourself direct your mind. They truly have a direct and strong relationship with success in your life. This is because they can control what you look at and so can simply control what you achieve or don’t achieve.

If you don’t ask questions that move yourself forward then you won’t. Its as simple as that. Ask bad questions and you will get bad answers. Ask questions that really suck then, yup, you know what’s going to happen. Make it your job to change the way you ask questions to yourself.

You will find if you just ask yourself the right questions then your mind will naturally find the rights answer that you were searching for. Now, think about how powerful this concept is. Anytime you ask yourself a question your mind will go looking for the answer, there’s no way you can stop it. Thats how the mind works.

Just take a look at this question, something you commonly might ask yourself:

“Why don’t I have enough money?”

If you ask yourself this then your mind is going to go looking for the answers and start telling you why!!

Yes, your mind is going to say:

“You don’t have enough money ‘coz…. “

And that is no way to go about changing the situation, in fact it is going to reinforce it.

Just looking at the example above will help you realize the importance of the questions you ask and the fact that you need to think about how you ask them. As I began to understand this I started to research more and looked for the best ways to ask the questions.

I wanted it broken down to the simplest and most effective format.

I found stuff written on this in a million different ways, but they didn’t provide a basic template. It was all shrouded in some techno-babble that didn’t really provide any answers. So I simply created a template for myself. Something my pea-sized brain can cope with and use easily on a regular basis.

1. The Why? question:

Usually we ask this in a negative way:

  • “Why am I so shy?”
  • “Why do I have to do such a sh#$ job?”
  • “Why does everyone hate me?”

These all have negative presuppositions. This is something that has to be true for the sentence to make sense. i.e. I am shy, I have to do this terrible job, everyone hates me. Not so hot, huh?!

To simply find to power in why questions, you just need to use positive presuppositions. Things that you are looking to achieve. Things you want. i.e. I am a genius, I love making money, I am creative all the time. Then ask why you have it and your brain simply goes searching for the answer.

Here are some examples of empowering questions with positive presuppositions:

 

  • “Why am I such a genius?”
  • “Why does money always come to me so easily?”
  • “Why does everyone love me so much?”

 

If you ask yourself why questions like this, soon you’ll wonder why you ever asked the negative ones.

2. The can I questions

If you are looking for answers to problems then these are the questions for you. Again just phrase them so your wants, needs and solutions are included. So for example if you are looking for a way to earn more money and have fun, your question is:

“How can I earn more money and have fun?”

You can use these with where/how/what/who. When you ask these questions look to include words such as easily, and, naturally etc. Also ask it with sincerity and just wait for the answer.

Here are some examples of more empowering questions which positively force you to find a solution:

 

  • “Who can help me build a website for free?”
  • “How can I get more energy naturally?”
  • “Where can I find the best answers to my problem?”
  • “What can I easily do to save money right now and have fun?”

 

When I ask these questions I also just ask for a clear signal with the answer so I can’t miss it.

So for example I ask myself:

“Who can help me build a website for free? And please bang me over the head with the answer when you show me.”

That is it, the answer will simply come to you. Don’t let yourself think “I wish” or “I can’t” or “I could never”. Replace these thoughts with can I questions.

So, instead of thinking “I wish I could have a house like that” (negative)… think “How can I get a house like within 2 years” (positive).

Anytime you start to ask questions which deny yourself something, just change it to a can I question. Can you imagine yourself just being bombarded with solutions to your dreams? Now, it can be a reality.

3. The could/would questions

These are the questions of potential. They are a neat way to navigate your mind when it rejects you thoughts or intentions. They can give you a new perspective when your head wants to reject everything you say.

An example of there use is this. Just imagine you ask yourself:

“What can I do to avoid making my husband upset today?”

You are focusing on avoiding something here and your husband getting angry. Best case scenario… your mind might tell you something you don’t want to do… worst case scenario your mind might just turn around and say “Nothing!!“.

This is the kind of thing where you could use questions of potential to focus on a possible positive outcome. Changing it to something of positive potential would be:

 

  • What would we both enjoy doing tonight?”
  • What could I do to surprise him and have some fun?”
  • What would happen if I let him choose something to do?”

 

These are questions of exploring potential and navigating around your mind rejecting ideas. Start using these to challenge your current thinking and you could be surprised.

These would/could questions are great for creativity and removing obstacles. The would question can focus you on the solution to a problem when used correctly. It lets you explore ideas and positive solutions or opportunities.

The could question is used to navigate around you head when it says “NO!”. It could be used to make anything a possibility if you want. Think about the possible potential.

The one idea running through all these questions is to focus the questions on solutions to your problems while not mentioning the problem. Focusing the questions on the problem just magnify it as your mind justifies itself.

Looking at the problem is kind of addictive, we all do it at some point. However, only by looking at a positive solution will you move forward. So why not do it straight away and have some fun with it?

The Task:

Write out the 3 types of question. Keep them on you and look to use them whenever you spot yourself asking a bad question. To focus on this spend 5 minutes when you are in the bathroom asking yourself some solution based questions and you will soon be able to spot the bad ones.

“We should behave to our friends as we would wish our friends to behave to us”

Aristotle

This is part 1 of a 3 part series about creating the mindset for achievement (please also check out “The Power of Questions” and “How to Remove Your Fears“). These ideas are at the foundation of really achieving goals and improving your life.

As you read these articles they will cause you to change your life. These ideas are about the way you think and ensuring you get the best out of yourself and live up to your capabilities. The words in your head are like the fuel for your life. You know the language in your head really does have a great effect on what happens on the outside.

Knowing this, you can understand that you want to make sure you have the best damn fuel for YOUR life. The lucky thing, simple changes can have a huge effect so you really owe it to yourself to think about the language you use within your head. Just understanding these ideas will cause huge changes.

The first step here is to become your own best friend. The first time you listen to your self-talk and what you say to yourself you may be shocked. You wouldn’t say stuff like it to your friends or family but you are saying it to yourself on a daily basis.

When you really consider it, its repulsive the language that you often use. The first thing you will notice in your brain is that there is a “me” and an “I”… or 2 different characters. The “I” always talks about “me”. Sometimes even behind my back!! So when you listen you will notice that you often talk about yourself as “You”. i.e. “You know you don’t stand a chance with that guy”

I tried really listening to myself and was SHOCKED. I listed all the negative and positive things I always say to myself.. I wrote them out on paper, it took about 30 minutes and ended up with a pretty long list… on the negative side and 4 or 5 things on the positive side.

This is something I want you to try as well now. Here is an example of what I came up with.

Negative:

  • You’re ugly
  • You have a huge nose
  • You can’t find a decent job
  • You are poor
  • You find it difficult to make friends
  • You’ve got huge debts which will take forever to pay off
  • You can’t speak
  • You’re are shy
  • You don’t know what to say to new people you meet
  • You never finish anything
  • You are lazy

Positive:

  • You are a good friend and trustworthy
  • People can get along with you easily
  • You’re fun and quick witted
  • You’re happy
  • You’re a great sportsman

That’s pretty much all the positive stuff I came up with and just a little of the negative. When I first looked at it I was stunned. I looked at some of the stuff and thought…if I said that to I friend they would kill me. That realization changed me and when you decide to try this , soon it will change you too.

Before you decide to do this, you have to make the mental choice to eliminate all the negative stuff. There is no point just looking at all the negative stuff that pops out and just saying “oh!”. You will need tospend some time to replace it with positive things. Write these down on the positive side and then practice asking yourself questions with positive presuppositions for these items.

Catch yourself in the act. Say “STOP!” when you hear yourself criticizing you. After that focus on something you wrote down as a positive (this is a great sentence to use to change your focus), and continue on with a smile.

Simply, become your best friend. Encourage and cajole yourself. Challenge yourself, tell yourself you are doing well or you did a great job. Give yourself a treat. Look after yourself and tell yourself how great you are.

Literally pat yourself on the back from time to time. You are going to enjoy doing this and enjoy the change it will bring about in yourself.

Becoming your best friend is the best thing you can do… you will always be there for yourself to pick you up and push you on. Once you start you will find yourself naturally encouraging yourself more and more. You will experience how the more you do it the more powerful the change will be.

The Task:

List the positive and negative things you say to yourself. Now, eliminate the negative and replace them with more positive things you want to say about yourself. Stop and catch yourself in the act when you do say something negative about yourself. Just become a good friend to you.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.”
Frank Outlaw

pure power (and words)What I’m going to share with you now is both beautifully simple and stunningly powerful at the same time. It is simply the power of words and how in order to get their power you have to discover how to use them properly.

If you’ve ever read a self help book then you probably know something about affirmations, I mean they always preach on about this stuff, talk about it as some kind of holy grail, but how many people has it actually helped? Yup, very few.

You know why? … simply because there is a little voice called common sense in our minds, which stops what it considers outrageous thoughts entering our unconscious.

So, we go “I’m confident”… “I’M CONFIDENT” … “I’M CCOONNFFIIDDEENNTT” … our voice of common sense yells, “yeah, right, stop joking around, you are the shyest little thing in the world, dumb ass”.

So, what if there was a way to use these words, where the unconscious didn’t automatically reject them as a load of trash. How can we use these words effectively?

I have tinkered with many ideas for a while, but have found the best way to use them in order to get results is to focus on their personal meaning to yourself. This way you don’t create some fantasy your mind rejects, but something solid that your mind can focus on. Your mind will go “ooooh niiiiice!”

Simply ask yourself the question: “What does _____ mean to me?”

I love this, its no fluff, just solid and works. It can act like an affirmation as the more you focus on it, the more powerfully you begin to think about it. The more you start to step into those shoes. It naturally also acts as a goal, because we know that what we focus on is what we become.

Spending a bit of time focussing and feeling a word of power like confidence is immensly powerful, like a huge tank. It can remove and go over all obstacles in its path. Feel its power in your hands, feel the strength. Who’s going to stop you now? Exactly – no-one!!

This really is so beautiful. It just creates your future and the more you use it the more powerful it becomes. If you stop using it for a while, you will naturally come back to it as you realize the power. Think of this like a magic key to creating a great future for yourself.

It will help define you life and take you beyond what you can dream of. It can be effective in such a variety of situations and in so many areas of life which is what I really love about it. It is also incredibly simple and so easy to see the benefits.

This really is a useful tool to have in the toolbox and something that is easy to fall back on should you forget it. But my advice, make sure you remember it and use it as much as possible.

Here are 20 words I think are important for a successful and enriching life. You can change them to whatever suits you. Wealth, Confidence, Happiness, Energy, Determination, Love, Creativity, Health, Motivation, Kindness, Wisdom, Compassion, Learning, Achievement, Memory, Leadership, Success, Freedom, Power, Friendship.

The key to this is to really focus, really ask yourself, “what does energy mean to me?” Feel it, see it in different situations and live it. Expand on it and ask yourself again and take the answer even further. The power and clarity of your thinking will insure your success. Make it clear. Make it strong. You will like what you see. You will like what you achieve.

Once you get the hang of this, you can move on and learn even more sentence structures that empower yourself. Don’t miss it.

The Task:

Take 2 or 3 words for 1 week. Focus on them for 10-30 minutes everyday and ask yourself the question “What does ____ mean to me?”

“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our
thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world”
~Buddha~

First point… I’m not a story writer, I’m a teacher… I just want to get my point across in a simple way for you to use it if it hits your switch.

We all know this old topic – the words you use in your daily life and even more so, the words you use in your mind have a huge influence over your life… but few use it – that is why you absolutely have to listen to this, because I will to show you how to use it easily.

If you need more examples of the power of words or  the one sentence that changed my life then take a look when you have time.

You know this is a well known and well proven principle and after I show you how to use this knowledge, the energy you have for life or any task will multiple and multiply beyond what you can imagine. This is something you want to understand.

If you look around in books and on the internet, its easy to find hints and tips, but nothing solid – which is the one thing we are truly seeking. I’m trained as an engineer which means I naturally like easy to follow, detailed plans that lead to something solid and reliable. So that is what I do.

One thing I am not going to do is produce some airy fairy, wishy washy stuff that might inspire you for a while but just doesn’t provide anything in the long term. If thats what you want then please go away, I’m not for you. If you what something solid you can easily implement, read on.

For now I just want youto focus on what I think is the most growth enabling word that you can simply use in your everyday language. If you learn just one thing, learn this.

The word is “REALIZE”. Later on I will introduce more words that you should substitute into your vocabulary in order to make you grow further. But for now this is just THE word. When I was experimenting, trying to train myself to use more and more powerful and emotional words, this is the one word that I found can do everything.

This is the one word that will inspire you to do so much. Its so powerful, because you don’t have to understand, you don’t have to discover, you just have to realize. Begin using it, and the more you do, the more you will. When I say it, I say it with strength. REALIZE. The power it contains it immense.

For example, if you need energy… just say, “realize the energy I have“… say it again with emotion, “realize the energy I have”. When you wake up say, “realize how much I love life”. When you are with you friends say, “realize how much I can love this conversation”. You get the idea. I am just bouncing up and down now as I write this and feel its power.

This one word can turn anything in a mantra. It’s way more powerful than affirmations, because you can remember it so easily and the power naturally comes from within it, rather than having to hype yourself up. I hope you enjoy this one.

Your Task:

For one week, practice everyday for 10 minutes inserting “realize” into as many sentences as possible and realize the power.